You’d think it would be mainly girls wanting to know why guys stare at them in the gym.
Now, while this is mainly true, it also happens that many guys also want to know why other guys stare at them.
It seems as though there’s a lot of staring going on in the gym.
In truth, I’d say there 4 main reasons for this,
And yes, I hold my hands up, I’ve been guilty of every single one of these.
Here’s the Main Reasons Guys Stare at You in the Gym
The most obvious reason that guys stare at you in the gym is that they find you attractive/fancy you/have a crush. Similarly, he could be impressed by either your physique or strength (in a non-sexual nature), and even be dazzled by your form.
Why Gym Guys Stare at You Infographic
If a Guy’s Staring at You He Finds You Attractive, Right?
I don’t care who you are, male or female, young or old, we’ve all done it.
Each and every one of us, at one time or another, has found someone attractive in the gym.
And whether it’s straight out staring, or a cheeky, little, sideways glance, we’re all guilty of checking someone out during a workout.
Go on, admit it, you know it’s true.
As I’ve mentioned, I’ve been guilty of all four of the reasons for staring, and I have definitely checked out girls in the gym.
Sorry, not sorry!
And this will explain why guys typically stare at girls in the gym.
If you think about it, you’re in an environment where generally most people are fit and healthy.
Furthermore, your heart rate is elevated and you’ve released various “feel good” hormones into your bloodstream.
Staying on that last point for a moment, the endorphins released during exercise are more-or-less identical to those released during sex.
Coincidence? I think not.
In fact, I have previously dedicated an entire article to why working out makes you feel hornier.
That said, one of the main reasons we tend to stare at other people, whether in the gym or not, is because we find them attractive.
Women Responds to “Creepy” Guy Staring at Her in the Gym
You’re Impressed By Someone’s Physique or Strength
There is another reason for staring, which I guess could be translated as finding someone attractive too.
However, in truth, it’s more geared towards being impressed in a non-sexual way.
How many times have you found yourself looking at someone and thinking that they had a fantastic physique?
Maybe you’re seriously impressed by their bulging biceps, hulking back, or rippling pecs.
And yes, even I have been seriously impressed by a girl’s butt, and even in a non-sexual way, LOL.
Then again, perhaps you simply can’t believe how much weight they’re lifting.
Once more, I know I’ve done this on many occasions, and I’m sure you have too.
In fact, there’s even a newish gym-related term which describes this, namely ‘mirin.
Now, you must ensure that the word ‘mirin contains the apostrophe at the beginning.
This simply means “we’re admiring”, which is exactly what I’m talking about here.
Remove the apostrophe and we’re talking about a Japanese rice wine or even a homosexual orgy.
So, for now, ‘mirin is definitely about admiring someone’s physique or strength.
Clearly, we can be impressed by someone’s physique, but I know I have often been even more impressed by a feat of strength.
This could be someone who appears to be deadlifting three times their own body weight, or performing squats with some seriously heavy weight.
Whatever it is, we have all been dazzled at one time or another by the way someone looks or by the amount of weight they’re lifting.
This is no doubt one of the main reasons that guys stare at other guys in the gym.
You’re Impressed By Someone’s Form
I guess I could’ve mentioned this above when talking about being impressed.
However, I know for a fact that I have often complimented someone on their form.
I realise this may seem a bit weird to some of you, but in all honesty, I do it all the time.
If I see someone squat to full depth, perform a bench press with perfect back arch and control, or press a weight overhead without hyperextending their back, I’ll usually tell them.
Honestly, I’m not doing this in a patronising way, or because I find them attractive, I simply want to let the person know how fantastic I think their technique is.
Personally, whenever someone compliments me on my form it makes me feel really good about myself.
In fact, I’m often feeling fatigued, thinking about ending my workout soon, and then someone pays me a compliment, and it’s as though I’ve suddenly found some extra energy from nowhere.
If well-intended compliments make me feel like that, I’m sure as hell going to make someone else’s day by doing the same.
Plus, I will also add that I typically see terrible form and technique in the gym on a daily basis.
So, if I see someone perform an exercise perfectly, I’m going to tell them.
Complimenting People in the Gym
The Innocent Stare (I Do it All the Time)
Next, we have the innocent stare.
This is basically when you’re totally zoned out, or “in the zone”.
And, once more, I’m guilty of this, and usually without even realising that I’m doing it.
Quite often, when I’m in the middle of a set I find that I’m completely in the zone.
Every ounce of energy and concentration goes into performing the lift with perfect form and high-intensity.
I have even had gym friends wander over to me afterwards and ask why I was staring at them.
We usually both laugh once I explained that I didn’t even know that I was doing it.
Basically, I am so in the zone and focused on my workout I’m not even aware of what my eyes are looking at.
Conversely, and generally while resting in-between sets, I find myself zoning out.
So, in effect, the complete opposite of being in the zone.
While I’m catching my breath, my mind begins to wander, although usually I’m not even thinking of anything in particular.
It could even be that I’m thinking of what to eat following my workout.
And, once more, without me even realising it I’m staring at someone else in the gym.
Yet again, I’m sure you’ve done this plenty of times yourself, while not even being aware that you’re doing it.
In fact, don’t we all just zone out on numerous occasions just in ordinary everyday life?
I guess this is a bit easier to spot, as the person “staring” will simply appear to be staring into space rather than directly at you.
Here’s a “Bonus” Reason
Okay, I’m probably already starting to sound a bit weird, so I’m just going to dial it up a notch.
I’m notorious for being a people watcher.
There is absolutely nothing malicious or sexual about what I’m doing, I’m just fascinated by watching people.
I find myself doing it all the time, whether in the coffee shop, while I’m out having a walk, and of course, in the gym.
I don’t really know why I’m doing it, but I do.
Okay, I will admit that I occasionally judge while people-watching, but in truth it’s just something of interest.
And as strange as this may sound, I’m sure I’m not alone, and many others take some type of pleasure at just people-watching.
The main reasons guys stare at you in the gym are:
- They find you attractive/checking you out.
- They’re impressed by your physique or a feat of strength.
- Once more impressed, but this time by your form/technique.
- They’re totally “in the zone” or even just completely zoned out.
Next, while I’m on the subject of “strange” things that men do, learn more about why guys wear leggings under their shorts.
Hi, I’m Partha, owner and founder of My Bodyweight Exercises. I am a Level 3 Personal Trainer and Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist through the Register of Exercise Professionals, United Kingdom. I have been a regular gym-goer since 2000 and coaching clients since 2012. My aim is to help you achieve your body composition goals.