It’s something that many of us want to know, “Is it OK to Hit on a Girl at the Gym?”
Let’s face facts, we’ve probably all found someone attractive at the gym.
You’ve presumably even thought about approaching her many times.
However, there’s almost this unwritten rule about flirting in the gym.
Or is there?
Allow me to explain the ins-and-outs of hitting on a girl at the gym.
Is it OK to Hit on a Girl at the Gym?
It is OK to hit on a girl at the gym, but only if done in the right way. In fact, there have been various studies and surveys conducted into this very subject, and flirting comes out in a very positive light. Just the mere fact that you have something in common with a girl is a great place to start. However, it is never OK to be condescending, show off, a lech or act like some type of Lothario. Plus, correcting a girl’s form or interrupting her workout is the cardinal sin.
1. Gym Flirting Isn’t a Taboo Subject
We’ve always been led to believe that hitting on a girl in the gym is just plain wrong.
In fact, it’s almost viewed as being a bit creepy.
I mean, we all typically go to the gym to work out.
For the vast majority of us we are ultra-focused on what we’ve got to do, and it certainly is no different for the females.
It’s a case of get in, get it done, and get out.
I’m sure many of you have gone to the same gym for years.
You’ve probably seen the same faces for equally as many years.
But, you hardly ever socialise.
Okay, perhaps the occasional nod, quick hello, a bro fist pump, or you may even break into a smile.
Nevertheless, gyms are not a place to pick up babes, or are they?
Various Studies & Surveys Say YES
As it turns out there has been a lot of research into this subject.
There are several studies and surveys that make for interesting reading.
And yes, don’t worry they include a cross-section of the general public, both men and women.
A survey of over 1,000 people conducted by the website, ellipticalreviews.com, revealed some fascinating flirty facts.
The main takeaway was that 97% of people who had hit on someone at the gym said it led to something further.
66% of people said their flirting led to a hook up, 61% of people got a date, whereas 24% ended up in a relationship.
A further survey conducted by the social dating service, Canoodle.com, of 1,500 members found that 62% of respondents thought that the gym was a good place to find love.
Plus, three-quarters of people said that they would much rather meet someone at the gym than at a bar.
This actually makes a great deal of sense, as you both have a shared interest in health and wellness.
I will also say for all the women who absolutely hate being hit on in the gym, there are those who don’t mind it at all.
We’re all hot and sweaty, our hormones are going wild from exercise, we’re typically wearing more revealing clothing, the music’s pumping, and there are some amazing physiques to behold.
It seems only natural that there’s going to be some flirting going on.
With that being said, there is a right way and a wrong way to go about this.
2. The Right Way to Hit on a Girl at the Gym
I’m going to keep this simple.
The right way to hit on a girl at the gym is to act like a normal human being and treat her with respect.
I’m sure this has many of you reaching for the sick bucket or thinking that is too tame of an “approach”.
However, irrespective of what environment you’re in, this is how you should be.
Guys have this incredible urge to create some type of fake persona when it comes to talking to girls.
It’s almost as though they have to hide their real identity.
In fact, most guys spend more time trying to plan things out or coming up with ways to impress a girl.
Now, while this approach may work for some, most girls will have far more respect for a guy who is completely himself.
So, rather than planning everything out to the tee, act like a normal human being, and treat her like one too.
Look, it’s perfectly normal to look at girls at the gym, and trust me, girls do it back to guys too.
Plus, as I’ve mentioned, the gym is just as good a place as any to get into a conversation with a girl, and you already have something in common.
This is as good a starting point as any.
But, you have to respect her boundaries.
I actually think it’s more important to stress what you shouldn’t be doing rather than what you should.
3. The Wrong Way to Hit on a Girl at the Gym
There are definitely a vast array of ways NOT to hit on a girl at the gym.
In fact, this list could go on-and-on forever.
And unfortunately, most guys choose these incorrect methods of flirting with girls.
I’m actually often embarrassed to be a part of the male population when I see these things.
Firstly, and this goes for approaching girls in any scenario, don’t leer, be a lech, or act creepy.
Plus, if you’re going to talk to a girl remember that she is more than just tits and arse.
Never interrupt a girl while she’s working out.
There is nothing worse than hitting on a girl mid-set.
She’s there to work out just like everyone else, so don’t stop her from doing so.
Don’t be a show off, arrogant, or simply talk constantly about yourself (probably while flexing your biceps and looking at yourself in the mirror).
And the cardinal sin is to correct a girl’s form, as though you’re some type of expert (unless she’s about to break her neck that is).
If she’s got her headphones in don’t constantly harass her and make her remove them just to hear your lame one-liners.
And always learn to take a hint.
If she gives you the brush off this doesn’t mean that you should try harder.
Oh, and even worse, if she’s not interested this does not mean she’s a “lesbian”, and she doesn’t deserve any harsh treatment or foul words from you.
Basically, it all comes down to the same thing.
Treat her like a normal person, with respect, don’t overstep the mark, and be clear on the boundaries.
Asking Girls Their Cringiest Pick Up Stories in the Gym
So, as you can see there are various studies and surveys that tell us it is OK to hit on a girl at the gym.
This makes a lot of sense because you typically have a shared interest and the gym is as good a place as any.
With that being said, you shouldn’t make a specific plan or be creepy in any way.
This is simply about talking to a girl you like, while treating her with respect.
However, be sure to never interrupt her workout, or to correct her form, and do not be creepy about it either.
Plus, if you get knocked back, learn to take the hint.
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Hi, I’m Partha, owner and founder of My Bodyweight Exercises. I am a Level 3 Personal Trainer and Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist through the Register of Exercise Professionals, United Kingdom. I have been a regular gym-goer since 2000 and coaching clients since 2012. My aim is to help you achieve your body composition goals.